Re: focus changing to those "not normal enough"... yeah, that's what I'd expect too. There always needs to be an enemy. Eventually they'll get around to the Jews again. :-/
Re: less oppositional... yeah, agreed. I've had a number of people over the years (most recently my ex-neighbor) tell me that meeting me and P had caused them to completely rethink their notion of how sharp the distinctions between gay and straight couples were, to realize that the sex of your partner doesn't define a "lifestyle." That's on the short list of "things I've done with my life that I'm proud of." (In my teens, Judaism played a similar role.)
Re: choice... you know, I've never understood this. Did I choose to dislike the taste of blue cheese? No, of course not. Could I train myself to like the taste of blue cheese? Probably. Could I eat blue cheese if my culture required me to do so? Probably. Am I happier not doing so? Yes. I realize that eating cheese is different in important ways from loving, or even having sex with, other people. But I get about equally confused by the dialog. It seems like people who talk about whether sexuality is a choice are really talking about something else and making noises with their mouths.
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Date: Sunday, 5 June 2005 03:55 pm (UTC)Re: less oppositional... yeah, agreed.
I've had a number of people over the years (most recently my ex-neighbor) tell me that meeting me and P had caused them to completely rethink their notion of how sharp the distinctions between gay and straight couples were, to realize that the sex of your partner doesn't define a "lifestyle." That's on the short list of "things I've done with my life that I'm proud of." (In my teens, Judaism played a similar role.)
Re: choice... you know, I've never understood this.
Did I choose to dislike the taste of blue cheese? No, of course not. Could I train myself to like the taste of blue cheese? Probably. Could I eat blue cheese if my culture required me to do so? Probably. Am I happier not doing so? Yes.
I realize that eating cheese is different in important ways from loving, or even having sex with, other people. But I get about equally confused by the dialog. It seems like people who talk about whether sexuality is a choice are really talking about something else and making noises with their mouths.